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What does Father’s Day mean to you?

Posted by Shanna Tingom, AAMS® on Jun 15, 2019, 6:00:00 AM

What does Father’s Day mean to you? For me, it means reflecting on how alike my dad and I are and also how different. While he is a man of few words, I tend not to be but when it comes to our tempers, we’re so much alike it’s scary! He and my mom retired to Mesa where they spend time together but life wasn’t always so simple and quiet.

Wait until your father gets home.

When my mother said those words, my brother and I knew we were in big trouble!

The waiting was the worst because my brother and I knew what was coming to us when we got home because Dad was the one who handed out the punishments. While he was (and still is) a man of few words and rarely raises his voice. 

He never really got mad but when he did, he would say how disappointed he was. Those words were punishment enough. To this day, I never want someone to say they’re disappointed in me.

To this day, I can honestly say that I’d rather have my dad mad at me than my mom. Dad and I are very much alike in that we don’t get angry often. When we do, it is advised that you run for your life. My husband will attest to this.

Like my mom, my dad has one of the strongest work ethics I’ve ever seen. After a health scare, we finally convinced him to retire.

After spending four days in the hospital for stomach pain, he was told he probably had Stage 4 colon cancer. The news terrified us and especially him because his mom, my Grandma Reed, died quickly and painfully from color cancer.

My dad’s time in the hospital gave him time to reflect on what matters most – his family.

What does Father's Day Mean to YouRetirement wasn’t an easy choice for my dad. When my mom’s dad, Grandpa Junior, retired, he died that same year of a heart attack. I know Dad didn’t want the same to happen to him which it didn’t. Not only am I grateful to still have my dad with me, I am so glad that he decided to retire!

My parents bought a pontoon boat they use on Canyon Lake. Dad started a handyman business because he can’t stop working altogether. (I expect I will work when I retire too because I have my dad’s work ethic.) They also take time to visit my nephew Teddy and his parents, my brother and sister-in-law, in Durango, Colorado whenever they can.

Retirement should be a time to enjoy life, with the people you love.

That’s why I do what I do every day. I want my clients to have the resources to retire and spend their time doing what they love whether that’s spending time with loved ones, heading out on the lake in a boat, or visiting their favorite vacation destination.

For my family, our vacation destination is Maui.  He said that when he passes away, he wants me to bring him back to Maui and sprinkle his ashes in Turtle Town where we dive. I am grateful I have his love of diving and that I have this time to spend with him. The photo included in this article is from our last trip and I can’t wait to get back to Maui to blow tiny bubbles with my dad.

He may be a man of few words but when he speaks, he speaks volumes, and I love him. Happy Father’s Day, Dad, and here’s to MANY more!